Love & Money: How to Talk About Big Decisions Together

Think Fast, Talk Smart: Communication Techniques

Jan 10 2023 • 22 mins

Do love and money mix? Labor economist and Stanford Graduate School of Business professor emerita Myra Strober says absolutely.

“Separating money and love is not a good idea. I have had 40 years to think about this, and, in my class at the GSB on work and family, each semester I realize how important it is to intertwine love and money."

In this podcast episode, Matt Abrahams sits down with Strober and social innovation leader Abby Davisson to discuss the thorny topics of work, money, career, and love. In their new book, Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions, the coauthors provide a framework for communicating in and around tough decisions with those we love. These may include caring for aging relatives, expanding your family, changing careers or moving.

“If you are in a relationship, maybe you have kids or other people living in your household, the first thing you need to realize is that your career decisions are going to affect the whole ecosystem,” Davisson says. “It’s very important not just to clarify what you want, but to anticipate and think about the impact on those around you.”

Think Fast, Talk Smart is a podcast produced by Stanford Graduate School of Business. Each episode provides concrete, easy-to-implement tools and techniques to help you hone and enhance your communication skills.

More resources:

Myra Strober: Breaking Barriers at Stanford GSB

Achieving Balance In Work and Life, video with Myra Strober

Myra Strober: How the Workplace Works — or Doesn't — for Families

An Economist’s Take on Why Parental Leave Matters

How Companies Can Solve the Pay Equity Problem

Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions, HarperCollins

Strober and Davisson on Forbes

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